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| Question: | My little boy is nearly 3 and is a real ' boy' , in that he likes to play with his toy cars and with his dad' s tools. He is also very loving and affectionate, and climbs onto my lap for a kiss and cuddle. His father does not approve of this, and says he hates to see this trait in a boy, and I am turning him into a sissy. I would appreciate your opinion on the matter. |
| Answer: | All humans, male and female, young and old, require affection and love, and if this is denied, particularly in their early life, it can adversely affect their adult attitudes.
Showing normal motherly affection and love is in no way going to turn your son into a ' sissy' , in fact it will probably make him a more stable and caring person, who will be able to relate well to both sexes in his adult years.
Many studies have been undertaken by psychologists and psychiatrists into abnormal behaviour, and many of these have found that an unstable family environment, or an emotionally deprived childhood are common in these people.
Conversely, no evidence has been found, even in extreme cases where a child has been raised as though they are the opposite sex for some years, that affection has any adverse effect on the adult. Over-protection of a child from the normal consequences of life may cause later problems.
Don' t use this article as a cause for confrontation with your husband, but demonstrate how other mothers treat their sons, urge him to also show some affection for your son, and gently explain that you are acting in his long-term best interests.
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